I sometimes wonder when coffee conquered the market as the non-alcoholic dating beverage of choice. Where did people go before there was a coffee house on every corner?
One of these days, when someone suggests meeting over a cup of coffee, I'm going to respond with something random like, "How about grabbing a cup of guava instead?" If I'm lucky, they'll think I said "java" and it will lead to a moment of confusion. Or maybe I'll just suggest meeting over a glass of milk ...
I suppose I'd better not try this out on someone I might actually be interested in. They won't think I'm funny ... they'll just think I'm weird (or a dork, or both). They might not be wrong.
But I digress. My point was going to be that I went out on a low-key date tonight, and yes, we met over coffee.
As you know by now, I have at least one red flag in advance of nearly every date I go on. This time, it was age - Justine is pretty much jailbait at 29. I decided to go anyway because she's bright, she's a writer, she lives close by, and she seemed to have a spark of personality.
I was right on all counts. We had a nice conversation, and I guess I have to admit that her laid-back British accent made it all the more entertaining (I know, I know - I'm an American cliche ... but come on, it's a nice accent).
Anyway, I was glad I went. Were there sparks? Well, I can't speak for her, but on my part, I'm not sure there were enough to overcome the part about being born in 1977.
Oh well, if we do decide to see each other again, maybe I'll try out the guava line ...
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"I suppose I'd better not try this out on someone I might actually be interested in. They won't think I'm funny ... they'll just think I'm weird (or a dork, or both). "
Or they'll think you're cribbing from Matt Damon in Good Will Hunting, where he impresses Minnie Driver with his riff about why it is that people always meet for coffee, rather than, say caramels. Which, of course, you won't be doing, but that scene has always stayed with me for some inexplicable reason. Maybe because I always ask people if they want to get together for coffee, despite the fact that I don't drink coffee and never have. But I get tea, and sometimes they get tea, and we persist in going out for "coffee."
xo,
ESM
it's funny - i didn't think about the matt damon rant you're referring to, but i've seen that movie a million times, so it must have been in my conscious-subconscious.
plagiarism ... what a bitch.
I don't know what is wrong with you. Twenty-nine is obviously an adult. Are you crazy? Go for it!
I dont know how young you are Karen, but I think 29 is an age you pretty much know who you are, where you're going.. they've been through all the stuff that you probably dont want to go through again...
I recently went out with a guy 10 years younger than me, (gasp!!) and the only problem was that he was still being the "sometimes" irresponsible 24 year old.... which is fine, but I had no desire to go through all that crap again with him! Sayonara kiddo!
Life is too short however and if she makes you happy, I say full steam ahead!
Or perhaps you're a bit like me, and pre-empt the outcome of any relationship before you've even delved there.. bad habit of mine, Im sure its got something to do with fear...
whatever you choose, good luck sweets!
alex
Age differences can play a major role, and sometimes-not.
I don't have any advice, as I haven't had a *first* date yet-which, in all liklihood-will be over coffee when it happens. If I were to offer anything, it would be-relax and have a good time-with guava, java or whatever.
Man! Age stickler! 23 is bad. 29 is not.
MPoo
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